Desires are nourished by delays

by Vinisha

Naturally, each person judges us differently and we perceive ourselves differently. With every little effort we put in to achieve the set grades, it always comes down to ‘you could have done better’.

My mother always taught me never to expect anything in return, just help and forget. And I jumped right at it doing the same. But every time things can’t be better and we give up. Lot of time I feel being nice and helpful has not been great at all.

We’ve always been told - childhood or the teenage happens to be the most beautiful days of life. The days when you desire to be the most successful. “I’ll do this. I’ll do that”. And sometimes these desires are shattered. We forget that desires are nourished by delays. 

Forcing yourself to attain academic excellence cannot be everyone’s award. The mind set becomes weak if expectations are not fulfilled. It could cause so much pain that you may feel there is only a single way left to end it – SUICIDE !

Wanna kill yourself? Just imagine this. This happens when you start to love. But sometimes things you love turn into things you hate. This should be a cry to be heard but remains unheard.

However, nobody should be pushed to such an extent, the elementary school is just the beginning. The real world could be even more harsh and cruel. These choices do not affect you at times.

Whenever you feel you are entering the world of wrong. Just question your motives, Academics is not something which decides that you should live or not. Be calm and don’t let your feelings go beyond. Else, it will end up with people who love you blaming and accusing themselves.

Well, I am a kind of person who loves to please people and at times go out of my way to help them. Though this would affect people’s mentality about me. But it is sometimes wise to let people take you for granted. Yet alas! A moment comes when you have to act. Just talk directly about things that matter. You are a living being and you have emotions. If at all it hurts learn to say no, learn to ignore and never compromise.

I personally feel that the more we stand out from the crowd, more the chance to be yourself- BE UNIQUE!

Everything in life makes you ask yourself - were you able to fulfill what you want or what people want from you? Well, never give this question a second thought. Think positive, whatever the result is. “Yes I achieved it.” Or maybe “ it was not a bad try.” This would surely be better than scribbling a suicide note on a paper out of frustration.

Just develop a thought. C’mon! There are so many things to live for. This is just a start to the real world.

I hope reading this would change how people think.

I know, this dilemma would never end but a clear mind could help. We have to have this positive perception and the broken expectations will definitely work the way you want.